In a class for my Soul Realignment Practitioners the other day, I was speaking about how attachment gets in the way of manifesting what we want. Ester and Jerry Hicks talk about this phenomenon, as does Neale Donald Walsh. The wanting of a thing usually attracts more and more wanting, rather than attracting the thing itself. In this way, attachment actually pushes what we want away from us.
This got me thinking about fear.
It seems to me that fear of something will also attract more fear …. but also will not allow for the manifesting of what we fear. After all, fear is a sort of polarized version of attachment. It is an extreme aversion, an attachment to something NOT happening. So if we fear something, while we may create more and more fear of the thing over time, it’s highly unlikely that what we fear will manifest itself.
This perspective might put to rest the fear of fear itself, which I see time and again in clients and students. Just the other day I spoke to a client who felt that her fear of failure in her business might actually attract the very failure she feared. She was fighting two battles - one to keep her business afloat, and the other to keep her fear at bay. The second was a complete drain of her energy. Once she realized that it was okay to be afraid, she was able to start focusing on what she wanted to create, rather than on banishing fear.
The idea of a fearless human experience is highly improbable and perhaps not even desirable! In fact, while fear may create more fear, it actually may also make it impossible for the things we fear to manifest themselves. It strikes me as an odd sort of energetic self-protection mechanism that we have been gifted with.
I am, of course, not advocating a fearful existence for anyone. But fear can be yet another voice of our inner wisdom, directing us away from what we don’t want, so we can redirect our attentions towards what we wish to create. Most of all, we need not be afraid of fear itself. Through fear, more fear may arise. But by being afraid, we do not call our fears into existence.
Honor your fears. Rather than trying to diminish the feeling of fear, listen to it. What is it trying to tell you? What are you trying hard to avoid? Ask yourself what you wish to create instead. Set your intentions on what you do want, ask for spiritual assistance … and let it go. Attachment can extend itself to an attachment of feeling only positive emotions. “Shoulding” ourselves into feeling something other than what is true for us in the moment only drains our energy.
There is nothing to fear about fear itself.
This guest post was written by: Andrea Hess, the creator of the Empowered Soul (Blog).
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